” Cause if it wasn’t for all that you tried to do, I wouldn’t know
Just how capable I am to pull through
So I wanna say thank you. You tried to hide your lies, disguise yourself
Through living in denial
But in the end you’ll see
Now, I don’t claim to know all the ways on how to move on and be happy, but I do know some wise people and as for myself, I kind of have an old soul so the wise in me comes natural. This is for anyone moving on from any type of relationship or hardship. My dad says, ” you can’t expect people to act the way you want them to.” He also says, ” don’t take life so serious.” Both true. Are arguments worth it? At the end of the day, not really. However, people act out and it needs to be handled, not just swept under the rug. That shit finds its way out sooner or later. Best to solve things in a nice manner, but not everyone is easy to talk to or deal with. I can’t count how many times I said, ” I love you, let’s just work this out and move on..” I’ll be honest and say that, people come back more mean, harsh, and just plain hurtful. With that said, if you know in your heart that you’re not wrong and you didn’t do anything, but try, don’t blame yourself and go in a dark hole. There is a way out. Believe me, I’ve had my fair share of crappy people to deal with so I learned a few things. Number one, find an outlet to express how you feel, like I said, someone will listen.. Number two, tell yourself that you are doing the best you can and you are unstoppable.. Number 3, Listen to my dad, he says, ” the people who have done you wrong, will get what’s coming to them.” I do believe in karma, however, there’s not enough positive karma going around these days. Number 4, tell yourself that you deserve nothing but the best people and things in your life.. Number 5, take a bath because a bath is always healing, especially with scented candles.. Number 6, you’re worthy of healthy,caring and loving relationships.. Number 7, do not surrender and back down.. And my made up lucky number 8, love yourself. If you don’t love yourself, all hell will break loose. Following these steps has not been easy for me, but I’m stronger, I have thicker skin and I never allow anyone to make me feel less than. One step I’d like to talk about is forgiving. To forgive, isn’t easy at all. I’ve come to the realization that, forgiving the people who have done you wrong, helps heal you and only you. It stops with you and it’s up to you to decide if you want to move on. It may seem like you’re giving in, but you’re actually accepting that person for who they are and removing yourself from the hold they once had on you. It doesn’t matter what lies or how hard they try to turn people against you for doing the right thing. They have to live with that guilt, not you. If you got anything out of this, I hope it inspires you to grow and be the happiest you that you can be. Life should be nothing but happy so make that the choice. I know I choose happiness, always and forever.