I’ve had plenty of conversations with people about this and most think it’s okay or natural. I truly only have eyes for the person I’m with, however, if I’m not treated right, my mind will wonder.. Guilty of that. That seems more natural to me. Other girls I know, would talk about how cute this celebrity is and even have pictures of those people and I would have zero interest in doing that because I was in love. Which brings me to this.. If your partner thinks it’s okay to look up girls all the time and call them cute or fantasize about them, but gets mad at you when you say so and so is cute, is nothing more than hypocrisy. I can’t stand hypocrites. Owning up is a big thing in my book, so if you can do that, you’re alright. I think, if your partner makes you feel beautiful or handsome all the time and they call someone cute, it wouldn’t be a big issue, but I find that to be rare or that’s just my experience. I feel, making your partner feel number one before anyone else is a must because that’s who you’re with. So important to make them feel special and wanted. So, is it really bad to say other people are cute? I guess as you get older, you start to not care as much about that stuff, since it seems petty, but for me, I think it is okay, as long as at the end of the day, you’re partner isn’t neglected or made to feel like they don’t matter. Relationships are hard work, but it’s not hard to show you love and adore them, above anyone else.
”I’ll tell you something else: guys masturbate…a lot. Even when they have girlfriends! And while you would love for your boyfriend to get off to you and only you, that’s not realistic or fair.”-Some girl
I’ve talked to many people about this topic and it’s quite divided. When you look at statistics about porn and why it’s not healthy at all, it makes you wonder why people in relationships or in general, watch it. Yes, it’s an easy fix and yes, some would say it’s only a fantasy..No touching so no harm no foul. This person writing how ”it’s not fair or realistic to expect your boyfriend to only get off to you,” is a load of crap, in my opinion. You shouldn’t have to watch porn while in a relationship. You should be able to spice it up and try at least to make each others fantasies come true. If you aren’t having sex due to the relationship not being in a good place, it’s still not an excuse to watch porn or scroll through pictures of naked guys or girls. I used to watch porn and then, I fell in love and he became my one and only at the time. I didn’t want or care for porn anymore. My attention was all on him, but that was a one way street. I give my all in a relationship, but I refuse to put up with crap. If your guy says, ” oh I don’t care if you watch it or look at other guys,” hit him with the ” okay, so I can look at guys I know and your cool with that?” It all seems to change then. Looking at people you know or don’t know, it’s still the same thing. You can find a way to contact both parties so the excuse of ” well, he’ll never see those people in real life,” is crap too. Sex in a relationship and being intimate is very important, but it also depends on the couple. Personally, I don’t need porn or anything for that matter to have a fun and exciting sex life. Being each others everything and one and only, is a beautiful thing and should remain that way, in all aspects of the relationship. It’s not only about you in a relationship and your partners needs should be a main priority. No room for being selfish, unless it’s a healthy selfish.It’s such a good feeling being treated like you’re the only one, but it’s also damaging when you don’t feel good enough. Some people would say it’s coming from an insecure place, if you’re upset with your partner watching or looking at porn… I don’t find that to be true. Their partner maybe, neglects them and treats them bad and chooses porn over them. I wouldn’t call that insecure. Porn can destroy relationships, even a healthy one. To love is to respect. To each their own, but facts are facts.